Moms Speak Up

According to Wikipedia, Divorce or dissolution of marriage is a legal process in which a judge or other authority dissolves the bonds of matrimony existing between two persons, thus restoring them to the marital status of being single. A divorce does not declare a marriage null and void, as in an annulment, but rather declares that fully consummated marriage is irretrievably broken and that it should be dissolved, allowing the parties to marry other individuals. The legal process for divorce may also involve issues of spousal support, child custody, child support, distribution of property and division of debt, though these matters are usually only ancillary or consequential to the dissolution of the marriage.

According to the study, there are common effects to the children of having their parents divorced like psychological problems, poor intellectual development and affected parent-child relationships.

Psychological effects,in children as young as 6 years of age, lets a child develop anxiety disorders where they experience overwhelming fear in being abandoned. The children feel isolation and sadness which can also manifest through other problems such as eating disorders or depression. The children can also have a Poor Intellectual Development in which the children feel insecurity, neediness, irritability and constant craving for attention. It can result to poor relationship with others, poor cognitive skills, poor academic performance, low self-esteem and depression.

Children blame themselves on what happen to their parents as divorce affect parent-child relationship. It could be Positive or Negative effect to children but it depends on coping strategies of a child. Teens engage on promiscuous activities and have no concept of an ideal parent. But some teens, take this as a learning experience and have a better decisions on the future.

The common concerns of the children from a divorced parents are financial worries especially in terms of their future career. They may think their parents separated because of financial problems. Divorce can also develop role or status anxiety in children in which the children try to play the role of either parents in attempts to mend their parents’ problems. This is considered as an unhealthy effect especially in adolescents.

To avoid or at least ease these effects, parents must allow their children to speak up openly and make their children understand that both mom and dad will still be their parents, act like parents, discipline them when needed, protect them from harm, follow consistent rules, not lean on the children for support but will provide support for the children and ensure that the love for the child will remain. No matter how justified the reason for the divorce, parents need to understand their responsibility to minimize the impact on them and make this major change in their lives as easy as humanly possible.

Cholesterol is a substance that your body uses to hold cells together and to make vitamin D, hormones, and substances that help digest foods. It comes from the animals products such as meat and whole milk but too much of it can cause problems. This is known as high cholesterol or other names is hypercholesterolemia or hyperlipidemia.

According to the study, published in the journal of Circulation on February 16, 2009, about 200,000 U.S. teens and preteens need medication to lower their cholesterol. Doctors from American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommended the cholesterol-lowering drugs called statins, for children aged 8 and older. A person with family history of heart disease showed high cholesterol on a blood test. Statin is to be considered for children with low density lipoprotein (LDL) and bad cholesterol level that are greater than 190 mg/dl. The drug treatment is recommended for lower LDL levels if certain cardiovascular risk factors such as diabetes or obesity are present. But before having this drug, you must see the doctor first for a check-up so to give you the do’s and dont’s of having this drug and information about the level of your cholesterol. Having a High Cholesterol can affect the health of the children or can affect the Future of this children. There must be a lifestyle change such as increased exercise and healthy diet.As early as now, parents must know what is right for their children to have a healthy life in the future.

What about all the Women I see, driving in their cars, 2 children strapped in the back, windows up, and 2 Moms SMOKING away in the front seat. When are you ladies going to get the word out, “take your ass outside to smoke” “don’t smoke in Cars with children and young people” We have to stop this it causes respiratory problems, ear aches, and perhaps even dementia. Second Hand Smoke is not fair, and I submit it is a crime. Endangering a minor with cigarettes is not acceptable. Take it outside. No more smoking indoors or in cars where children and young adults may be present. That is my opinion.

As I search on the Internet, I found this article interesting because it is about a mother and a child. There’s a media campaign launched in India, to spread the awareness of correct mother and infant care through intense media messaging using the television and radio. The Campaign was entitled “Deliver Now for Women + Children”. The campaign aims to improve health seeking behaviour of the masses. And it was supported by different sector like the Nationa Rural Health Mission and the partnership for maternal, newborn and child health programme with a partnership of Department of Health and Family Welfare and technical support from NRHM BCC Cell, State Institue of Health and Family Welfare, TMST (DFID) and Unicef.

These is a very good campaign. It will make everyone recognize the different problems about taking care of women and a child. Using the Media is the great way for targeting the masses. The focus of this program is on breastfeeding, malaria, diarrhoea, post-birth complications and hypothermia. Orissa was chosen as the site for this pilot project in India because of the high rate of maternal and child mortality. The TV spots will be shown regularly till July, 2009 on television and broadcast on radio channels. The campaign includes a baseline study of knowledge, attitudes and practices, behaviours of more than 1,000 respondents in Orissa by HDI, a Bhubaneswar-based NGO, under supervion of the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine. I hope this media campaign will achieve there goal and spread the goodness to everyone. This campaign will surely spread not only in India or Asia but also around the world.

http://www.thestatesman.net/page.news.php?clid=9&theme=&usrsess=1&id=243578

One of my friends sent this article to me that really shocked me. It was from The Sun news in United Kingdom, titled “Baby-faced boy father at 13″. And it’s really shocking because the boy Alfie is only 13 but he looks like five years younger. And his girlfriend Chantelle Steadman is only 15 years old and gave birth to 7lbs 3oz Maisie Roxanne.

A 13 year old should be playing outdoor and computer games but this one, he had embraced the big responsibility of becoming a dad in an early age. And it is also a heartbreaking news because of the consequences that they have to face without thinking. I know this news will be an reminder to everyone to be a responsible teenager and also to the parents. As parents should educate their children in an early age and open their minds about sex education.

I hope that alfie and chantelle will become a responsible parents to Maisie Roxanne with the help and support of their family and friends. Nobody knows what will their future be but as long there is faith and love for each other they will overcome what they have come through.

Source: http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/article2233878.ece

How can you tell if you are addicted to love…more specifically, addicted to the feeling that love gives you. Let’s face it, love is the most powerful emotion in the world and it really can make you do silly things. When you fall in love you can’t eat, sleep or do much of anything productive…eventually this obsessive love wears off…but for the first couple weeks in a new relationship it can be nonstop.

So the big question is, could you become addicted to this butterflies in stomach Adrenaline rush that you get when you fall into this obsessive love stage? I think the answer is a resounding yes…these emotions you feel are EXTREMELY powerful and are the strongest drug ever made…via your own body!

So love is a VERY powerful drug actually and you can go from relationship to relationship just re-fueling that feeling over and over.

So how do you ween yourself off of the love drug…how do you find a partner that you can keep a steady flow of love drug to your brain instead of only getting that couple week fix for each new person?

Science is still working on all the answers, but there is a part of the brain that lights up when you feel love that can be maintained over a lifetime…this is what we all must be looking for…this has to be the meaning of life…Ultimately I’m talking about pair bonding with someone that gives you that steady stream of the love drug.

So how do you find someone that gives you a steady stream of love drug AND where the other person gets the same thing? I don’t have all the answers by any stretch of the imagination…but my gut is telling me that it has to be from getting to know someone’s character. By forming a bond based on sharing experiences and getting to know a person’s character and some deep details about there life one must have a great chance of forming a lifelong partnership.

As a very intelligent and insightful women told me once…

“It seems as though many members, male and female, of my generation use sex to define a relationship. But I don’t act this way and it’s definitely not how I care to build a strong foundation for a life long relationship. It makes me wonder, “has our generation become so jaded that we no longer recognize romance,” or the importance of it?”

So romance must be the key to understanding why we are on this earth and what our purpose is. Romantic love is the key to understanding why we bond with people and more importantly why people stay together for so long…

So if romantic love is the ultimate drug/purpose for life…then why do so many people think that sex comes first then romance…why do people hookup at bars for one night stands and never experience love…

I personally have only experienced romantic love twice…each time it was very intense and I experienced the common symptoms of not being able to really eat or sleep for a solid week…of course I messed up both times and the relationship died…but ultimately it was totally worth it and something I will never forget.

The point of this post is really about IF you have felt that feeling recently…how do you not get addicted to it and want it more and more…because then your going to get yourself into a binge where all you want is the love drug and every other part of your life falls apart. How do you get to experience the love drug without crashing hard from withdrawal when it goes away and crave it even more? I wish I had the answer to this…anyone out there wanna help with this subject? Please leave comments below.

So you went out of Valentine’s day and it turned into a disastrous breakup…here are some tips for how to deal with this situation.

1. know that any heartbreak feelings your having right now is totally temporary…you might have a very bad case of the blues and think that life isn’t even worth living anymore…but just know that these nasty feelings will go away over time.

Scientific Explanation: When you have that heartbreak feeling going on it is from Adrenalin and Oxytocin…they too chemicals play hugely in your brain regarding your moods…Oxytocin has also been called the cuddle drug…because your body makes it when you have that skin on skin cuddling contact with someone.  Adrenalin on the other hand is like crack cocaine…it’s your bodies natural way of getting you excited and keeping you alert.  In a relationship where things are fast and furious from the get go, you can get a TON of Adrenalin running through your brain where you can’t sleep, eat, or really even think…its the butterflies in the stomach response and can be extremely powerful.  Feeling love like that is the strongest drug known to man…it can be completely overwhelming and cause you to do stupid things…and when your heart is broken that feeling goes away and you are literally coming down and having drug withdrawal symptoms from so much Adrenalin.

2. Exercise helps…yes, surprising when you are feeling that anxious butterflies in stomach heartbreak feeling…exercise will help you feel better. Also, the harder you exercise the better…so go lift so weight or do some sprints…this will calm down your system actually and help to push some of the Adrenalin out of your body. I know it sounds crazy, but give it a shot…if you have a new love or just got dumped by one…go exercise and it will calm you down so you can eat and sleep better.

3. Distract your mind…one common thing to do is to keep thinking about your lover over and over in your head and even beating yourself up by thinking ‘well I shoulda, coulda, woulda’…what’s done is done…you can’t change the past, you can only influence the future…so stop thinking about your lover and just focus on something totally different. Of course this is easier said then done, once we experience the love drug we can’t stop thinking about it…it’s like your body is craving those chemicals again and you can’t get that person out of your head. You really need to put yourself in a situation where you can’t even begin to think about him/her. Get your head in a place where you focus on your work, friends, family, hobbies, etc…take a break from any activities you enjoyed together so it doesn’t spur more memories of the loved one. One specific trick you can use is to think about all the bad stuff about your lover…this will help your mind come to the conclusion that ‘she/he wasn’t right for me anyway’. This can be a little bit hard to do, but if you can just focus on why they are not right it will help relax you and you will stop thinking about all the good things.

4. Chalk it up as a learning experience…the ability to laugh at one’s self and learn from our mistakes is next to Godliness. To many folks take love too seriously…yes it is the ultimate drug and high…but you have to think about the long term and want you have learned from your experience so it doesn’t happen again…yes this can also be hard (I wasn’t saying dealing with heartbreak is easy by any stretch of the imagination) …but know that deep down you are a more evolved and better person because you went through such a strong emotional experience. Know that you just experienced something great and now that’s its over you can learn from it and grow to be better for your next mate. Think of life as a journey and not a destination…so many of us get all wrapped up in trying to get married and have kids that we forget that life is a process where we learn from our mistakes and keep moving forward. You have to just chalk it up to experience and move on…don’t dwell on the person if it doesn’t work out. You might not think that you will ever find anyone as awesome as your lover…this is a VERY common thing to think…but this is simply not true. You have to let go of that person and know that the next relationship you are in will be way better because you are smarter and had this experience…keep this in your mind and you will always be able to have better and better relationships

I would love to hear anymore tips folks have for having to deal with a broken heart…we’ve all been there, so don’t ever think that you are the first person to have their heart broken…it’s human nature to want to feel love. Keep in mind that getting love is risky business, there is always a chance that your feelings won’t be returned and you will be devastated…but think of it this way, at least you tried and had that feeling for a short time…yeah it sucks if your heartbroken now…but give it time, get out and spend some time with your friends and always know that it is better to have loved and lost to have never loved at all…sounds cheesy but what is human experience without giving something a try…you only live once, so get out there and find your love.

Ultimately I don’t think anything will make you happier then love…it is truly the ultimate drug, its natural, renewable and is what evolution has been working on for 4.5 billion years…without the insane drug highs of love, life would be dull and not have all the variety and flair around the sexual experience.

So if you were dumped on Valentines day…take a deep breath…know that the feelings you’re having right now are common and temporary…focus your mind on something else…and chalk it up as a learning experience so the next time you fall in love you will be able to control your emotions better from the start.

President Barack Obama reauthorized the expanded health insurance program for the children calling it as a down payment on his commitment to ensure the coverage for every American. This program is a really big help to everyone especially to Michigan because the program covers kids ineligible for Medical whose families have incomes less than twice the national poverty level. 71,000 additional kids from Michigan will received a basic health care coverage according to the families USA, a health care advocacy group based in Washington, D.C. and right now 114,000 children in Michigan received health care through Michigan’s SCHIP program known as MiChild.

Reauthorization of the state Children Health Insurance Program is about $74 Billion and for will increase for $33 billion on the next five years. It is considered as the president’s one of the biggest responsibilities. The legislation would be paid through a 62 cent pack increase in the federal excise tax on cigarettes and other tobacco products, which would hike that tax from 39 cents pack to $1.01.

American Kids deserves this insurance program and I think Pres. Obama did the right move for the benefit of everyone.

Source: http://www.freep.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20090204/NEWS15/90204084&s=d&page=2#pluckcomments

Accordingt to World Health Assembly, Health is a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity. Health is one of the factor to have a healthy and happy family. To achieve this, lifestyle is one to be consider especially to the children.

Santa Cruz County (U.S.A) are in the top 10 of the high rates of obesity but when they plan the 24 point to increase an healthy eating and physical activity for children they went down to 29th in 2007. The plan was call to action, reaching out to young people, parents, doctors, educators, employees and city planners. And now, people are now aware of the problems created by being overweight and are taking steps to adress it, especially to school districts who are adopted the students on the wellness policies.
Last October 2008, the Maine Youth Overweight Collaborative developed the “5210″ were the doctors endorsed it. “5210″ stands for:

5: Eating five servings of fruits and vegetables a day.
2: Limiting TV/video game time to two hours or less a day.
1: Participating in one or more hours of physical activity every day.
0: Eliminating soda and sugar-sweetened drinks, replacing them with water and low-fat or fat-free milk.

It is not easy to achieve this goal in an easy way but when the family are striving and willingly to change their lifestyle it will come out a happy life.

Maggie Zingman is a mother who had a daughter who died of rape and got murdered almost 4 years ago. Britanny Phillips was a college student when she was murdered in her Tulsa apartment in 2004. And until now, the case has not been closed. Even though there is a DNA evidence in Brittany’s case, the killer has not been found. Zingman launched “Caravan to Catch a Killer”. She’s been traveling across the country in her small SUV, which is wrapped with photos of Brittany and a website.

Even though these type of murder are not going to stop but at least this will help to decrease the number of violent offenders that are out there. The goal of her traveling is to educate people on DNA evidence issues and rape cases. It is hard to solve this mystery but at least it will lessen the number of other daughters, family members lost. I know in time the Truth will be come out, not in the eyes of the people but in the eyes of God.

Web: http://www.brittanyphillipsmurder.net/