How can you tell if you are addicted to love…more specifically, addicted to the feeling that love gives you. Let’s face it, love is the most powerful emotion in the world and it really can make you do silly things. When you fall in love you can’t eat, sleep or do much of anything productive…eventually this obsessive love wears off…but for the first couple weeks in a new relationship it can be nonstop.
So the big question is, could you become addicted to this butterflies in stomach Adrenaline rush that you get when you fall into this obsessive love stage? I think the answer is a resounding yes…these emotions you feel are EXTREMELY powerful and are the strongest drug ever made…via your own body!
So love is a VERY powerful drug actually and you can go from relationship to relationship just re-fueling that feeling over and over.
So how do you ween yourself off of the love drug…how do you find a partner that you can keep a steady flow of love drug to your brain instead of only getting that couple week fix for each new person?
Science is still working on all the answers, but there is a part of the brain that lights up when you feel love that can be maintained over a lifetime…this is what we all must be looking for…this has to be the meaning of life…Ultimately I’m talking about pair bonding with someone that gives you that steady stream of the love drug.
So how do you find someone that gives you a steady stream of love drug AND where the other person gets the same thing? I don’t have all the answers by any stretch of the imagination…but my gut is telling me that it has to be from getting to know someone’s character. By forming a bond based on sharing experiences and getting to know a person’s character and some deep details about there life one must have a great chance of forming a lifelong partnership.
As a very intelligent and insightful women told me once…
“It seems as though many members, male and female, of my generation use sex to define a relationship. But I don’t act this way and it’s definitely not how I care to build a strong foundation for a life long relationship. It makes me wonder, “has our generation become so jaded that we no longer recognize romance,” or the importance of it?”
So romance must be the key to understanding why we are on this earth and what our purpose is. Romantic love is the key to understanding why we bond with people and more importantly why people stay together for so long…
So if romantic love is the ultimate drug/purpose for life…then why do so many people think that sex comes first then romance…why do people hookup at bars for one night stands and never experience love…
I personally have only experienced romantic love twice…each time it was very intense and I experienced the common symptoms of not being able to really eat or sleep for a solid week…of course I messed up both times and the relationship died…but ultimately it was totally worth it and something I will never forget.
The point of this post is really about IF you have felt that feeling recently…how do you not get addicted to it and want it more and more…because then your going to get yourself into a binge where all you want is the love drug and every other part of your life falls apart. How do you get to experience the love drug without crashing hard from withdrawal when it goes away and crave it even more? I wish I had the answer to this…anyone out there wanna help with this subject? Please leave comments below.